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Why don’t I wear heels?

Because I am a man is the wrong answer. I don’t wear heels because

  1. They are painful and lead long-term damage of my feet
  2. They are uncomfortable, hard to walk in, clumsy, and slow
  3. Society does not think men look better in heels
  4. Society does not think men should subject themselves to a mild form of torture in order to please the opposite sex

Apparently heels make women look prettier. I never really get past “my goodness, isn’t that painful? Why on Earth are you wearing those?” Some women, when I tell them this, say they’ve been wearing heels so long that it’s as easy for them as wearing sandals. I suspect they’re lying. If they’re not, then I wonder at the damage that must have been done to reach that point.

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Speeding woes

More than a thousand people have died on South African roads since December. The state of road safety in this country is horrendous (SA was recently ranked as the worst of 36 countries in a road safety report).  There are many reasons for this, including drinking, corruption, speeding, a general culture that thinks breaking traffic laws is acceptable, and the fact that the country does not even have a road safety plan. I don’t think anyone is free from guilt in this. Let’s consider speeding for a start. Read the rest of this entry »

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A story for those away from home this Christmas

I have spent two Christmases far away from home and I have to confess these were not the best Christmases I ever had. The topsy-turvy weather (I come from a country with a warm Christmas), not having my parents’ food, not having my parents, all contributed to this. This year I am once again at home and I will be celebrating Christmas with my family. I am content. But having spent time in the Netherlands, and having appreciated their strange Christmas traditions, I wondered what the reverse might feel like. That is how my latest story, Not an Afrikaner, was born.

Not an Afrikaner is the story of a Dutch man married to a South African woman and living in South Africa. He has to try to explain the strange custom of Zwarte Piet (I wrote about the controversy of this tradition here), face his unaccommodating and racist mother-in-law, and the unseasonably warm weather. This is a story for anyone who has to spend Christmas away from the country of his birth, but who can nevertheless learn to appreciate the otherness of his new home.

This is going to be in many ways a sad Christmas for South Africa with our great leader, Madiba, having just passed away. However, in the wake of his passing, I believe we will come to a greater understanding the of the extraordinary qualities of South Africa. This is something to celebrate.

 

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Racists are killing Zwarte Piet

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A not-so-skillful picture I took of a Zwarte Piet in November 2012

The Dutch have many strange traditions. Perhaps one of the strangest is that of Zwarte Piet. Where Santa Claus in many countries has elves, in the Netherlands Sinterklaas[1] has Zwarte Pieten, which is to say Black Peters. Men(and women) put on black face, paint their lips red and thick, and put on garish costumes reminiscent of those black slaves used to wear. The Black Peters are Santa’s helpers. They hand out “pepernoten”, ginger biscuits that the Dutch love, and they perform comedy and acrobatic acts. The Zwarte Piet tradition is one that would have you denounced as racist in South Africa (you may well end up in trouble with the law), but in the Netherlands Zwarte Piet is entrenched and accusations of racism have not (yet) killed this tradition.

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Feeling young

Liberal_Arts_FilmPosterSince I was 19, I have never felt not 19…. Nobody feels like an adult. It’s the world’s dirty secret. – Prof. Peter Hoberg, Liberal Arts.

I am still in my twenties, but I am fast approaching 30. I can feel the gulf between myself and 19-year olds, just out of high school, widening. But I don’t feel like an adult. I don’t feel all that different from when I was 19.  Read the rest of this entry »

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Power-posing and job interviews

For a long time I have been working on being a more assertive person, someone unafraid of going up to people and crossing the social barrier that often seems to stand between us. I am someone with strong opinions, but I only really express those opinions when given the opportunity. The truth is that my openness, my confidence, my ability to seem in control, relaxed and articulate, depend on who I am with and the circumstances in which I happen to be. It takes a lot of mental effort to reverse the effect of my surroundings and I often fail. One particular situation in which this is true, and I am sure I am not the only person with this problem, is with job interviews. Read the rest of this entry »

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A new story and reflections on getting published

I am delighted to announce that this month (November) you can find a little story I wrote – it’s called  Carie’s Way – in the ezine Penumbra. The theme of the issue is gaslight fantasy, which means, as I understand it, that it is set in Victorian times (particularly in England) when streets were still lit with gaslamps. My particular story is set in colonial Cape Town, ruled by the English. An English girl named Carie finds there are sinister forces at work in the very heart of the Empire. Will she have the courage to strike at them when given the chance? It’s a simple story, but hopefully a fun one too.

For an amateur writer like myself this is, of course, a prize: to have one’s work published, even if it is only a short story in a ezine with a small circulation. I feel rather chuffed. It’s almost like being elevated from the rank of “writer” to “author” (it’s not quite that).  Importantly, it’s a first step. A crucial building block of my, until-now non-existent, reputation as a writer.  If you read the story, feel free to give me feedback (positive or negative).

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Good-guy, piracy

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This post by a fellow blogger has questioned whether piracy is a bad thing. In a previous post of my own, you may recall, I explained why I now avoid pirating anything and I stick to this as my reasons for doing so are as valid as ever. However, to pretend that piracy has no good effects at all would be silly. That is what I want to highlight today. Read the rest of this entry »

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Faithful to science

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A gripe of many atheists is the strange ability of believers to affirm science in some areas (they believe in the principles that led to combustion engines) but to blindly deny it in others (notably: evolutionary theory). This has to stop. If Christians are ever to convince the thoughtful scientific atheists out there, they will need to start treating science with the respect it deserves. Two things have recently underscored this for me. Read the rest of this entry »

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I’m alright: I have a book

Never trust anyone who has not brought a book with them.
― Lemony SnicketHorseradish: Bitter Truths You Can’t Avoid

Books are a uniquely portable magic.”
― Stephen KingOn Writing

I take a book with me just about everywhere I go. I carry it in a backpack that I also take almost everywhere and which makes me look ridiculously nerdy. I am not much bothered with that, however. Read the rest of this entry »

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